Facebook groups are wonderful things that most people probably don't use to their full advantage. With a group, you can control who is in the group and even if the group can be found via search. This makes it perfect for chatting or sharing things that you don't want everyone to see.
2013 MOAA Military Spouse Symposium: The Scoop From Macho Spouse was originaly written for MOAA Spouse Blog: Making it in the MilLife.
When I was asked to participate during this year's MOAA Spouse Symposium, I couldn't refuse. Sure I am insanely busy with work and my travel budget didn't include a 2900 mile trip to Tacoma, but these were the popular kids calling.
As a male military spouse, you gotta have a hobby - something you do that you really enjoy.
Here is what I'm trying to find out.
As a male military spouse, what is your hobby? What do you do for fun?
I know that there are military spouses out there who are still struggling with changing their residency to the state they move to every time they PCS. If you are a military spouse, you may not have to do that anymore!
There is a great resource I found on Facebook.
Introduction to Marine to SAHD Blog, laying out where I have been what experiences I have.
My name is Andrew “Fergie” Ferguson; I enlisted in the United States Marine Corps in 2007 and did four years of active duty in Hawaii. In those four years I deployed twice, once to Iraq and Afghanistan. I was injured during those four years on multiple occasions and still am injured and receiving help from the Veterans Affairs.
Carpe Diem is the Latin term for seize the day.
I've seen on social media, and the news, some folks complaining about the “would've/could've” aspect of their life.
Far too often people talk about things they wish they could have or should have done.
Being married to the military, I find myself slipping into that trap more and more often because my wife's Navy career can keep me from pursuing certain passions.
When TownePlace Suites reached out and asked if I would be interested in writing a few blog posts about their hotels, I immediately said “yes.” I always enjoy reviewing products and services I've used and appreciate, plus TownePlace offered a few free nights for my efforts. Pssst…don't tell them, but that really wasn't necessary.
Military Base Firearm Laws can be confusing, especially when you end up living at two different military bases within one year, like I did. I own several guns and the first time I encountered military base firearm laws was during a PCS move when the movers asked me if my guns were registered on the base. My response..."Huh?"
As a new civilian male military spouse, you will come to a point when you will have to make a decision about your career.
One tip on ho How to make a portable caree is:
Think "Portable" at all times.
Making a portable career requires hard, smart work, but it is possible.
There are plenty of guys who have made their careers portable.
You can do it, too!
Here are 5+ Portable Careers for Civilian Male Military Spouses.
You know, I started Macho Spouse because I couldn't find a job in my career field during our last PCS. Most of us military spouses have probably gone through similar depressing job-searches. But after two years of unemployment, here I am, back in the job market and gainfully employed. This time, however, I have a whole new appreciation for what it takes to land that next job. The following is a short list of what I learned during my latest employment drought.
He is selling Scentsy stuff. Guys, THIS is the type of creativity, determination, and courage it takes to be a successful business person as a miltiary spouse! When we asked how this new venture came about, this is what Andrew said:
Stress affects almost everyone. Before you became a new civilian male military spouse, you probably experienced stress. Now, you will probably experience stress in different ways and more frequently.
Sometimes, it can be a good thing because it can energize us to meet new challenges or changes. But if it's not managed, stress can affect your physical and emotional health, your relationships, and your life.
Whether you're a civilian male military spouse or not, below you will find a few tips on how to manage stress.
All aspects of housing and home ownership for services members and veterans are covered at Military Benefits.
It's the holiday season and to me that means spending time with family and friends while reflecting on the year that was.
Are you PCS-ing (relocating) any time soon? Need apartment/housing information? Need school information from other military parents? Need to know about the neighboorhood around your new base?
MilitaryTownAdvisor.com is a PCS relocation resource where military families write reviews about neighborhoods, apartment complexes and schools in military towns near U.S bases. Created by a military spouse for military families.
It seems that the subject of employment comes up whenever money is tight, when the kids are all finally in school, or you PCS to a new duty station. I can't tell you how many times I have thought about getting a job outside of our home just so we could have a little wiggle room in the budget.
How do you help new neighbors that have just PCS'd into your area, when you hate the area you live in?
Now I'm not saying I hate my current base, I'm saying I really really don't like the Washington DC, Northern Virgina, Maryland area, also known locally as "The DMV."
Here is some good information on flying Space A. I have yet to take advantage of Space A, has anyone flown this way?
As a civilian male military spouse,do you know the resources available to you?
Moving is a big part of the military life that we all experience in different ways. Packing up your life and moving it to another location is challenging for anyone. As a civilian male military spouse, there are a few ways to do this. In this post, we take a look at the DITY move aka the Personally Procured Move PPM.
Depression affects quite a few male military spouses and not everyone handles it the same way, some better than others. In part two of William McEvoy's Man-to-Man interview, William shares how he has been able to successfully manage his own fight with depression. We're not saying this is the best way to beat all forms of depression. His strategy worked for him, it may not work for you. Either way, this interview is a good place to start for those who feel they may need help.
Wait, you're a stay at home dad? How'd you get on base?" said the hairstylist at the exchange when I responded to her question on what I did for the Air Force.
This happens a lot when you're a military husband. You'll get salutes from the gate guards, military discounts that only apply to active duty personnel, and maybe if you're really lucky, the start of a chewing out over haircut and shave regulations by a senior enlisted person.
Because our wives make up a small part of the force.
The deployments and frequent moves of the military lifestyle can put pressure on any marriage. When the wife is the military member and the husband is a civilian, the strain may be greater.
If you're a male military spouse, it's important to know how to help keep your marriage strong. You can learn what challenges you're likely to face and prepare yourself for them. You can learn to recognize when you need help and how to use the resources available to you. And you can build a support system of other people you can count on.
Fellow male military spouse and general provocateur, Chris Field, shares his "Top 5 Ways to Enter the Military as a Husband."
A list of holidays, observances and events recognized throughout the month of March including federal, non-federal and religious holidays and more.
March Military Calendar of Holidays, Events, Observances
A list of holidays, observances and events recognized throughout the month of May including federal, non-federal and religious holidays and more.
A list of holidays, observances and events recognized throughout the month of June including federal, non-federal and religious holidays and more.
June Military Calendar of Holidays, Events, Observances
Start learning what in the world your wife and her co-workers are talking about today! This is a basic, beginners list of military acronyms (something the military is very fond of creating).
MSEF is founded on the belief that we are one community supporting one another regarding rank, branch, status, or educational status. After 11 years of war, our Post 9/11 era spouses deserve a program that compliments the challenges of military life rather than creates more obstacles.
Whatever your Winter Holiday tradition, now is the time when many cultures have historically livened up the dark days of winter (in the Northern Hemisphere) with celebrations of community, charity, and gift-giving*. Going into debt, however, should not be a part of your tradition.
How much should you spend on Christmas?
Guys, the APA has determined that men and women share cognitive skills, we are fundamentally the same. The whole notion of guys being better at math and women being better at communication is simply a social construct. I firmly believe that statement, but that doesn't change the social construct.
Aaahh...PCS season. How many of you can relate to Sean's "adventure?'
I don't get excited about much, but I am very excited about this. I no longer have to do all the paperwork and go through the hassle of changing my residency every time we PCS (move). Plus, now I get to keep my residency with a tax-free state. BONUS!
Military spouses need to check out the following article. It gives more details about the Military Spouses Residency Relief Act (MSRRA). Also, keep in mind that this makes voting easier for military spouses!
As a military spouse, it's hard for me to miss all of the talk on the news about the Federal Government looking for things to cut from the budget. The buzz around my very small military circle of friends has included mentions of "budget cuts" since the beginning of this year. I can think of many different ways the military can save money and I was happy to see a story about the Marine Corps considering one of my ideas - "homesteading."
In the 13 years my wife and I have been married, my wife has also been in the Army. We have moved a total of eight times.
As I post this topic, we are in the process of moving again. Our next stop will be Fort Knox, Kentucky.
We are excited about this new location and have heard many good things about Fort Knox. But, we will certainly miss the friends we have made here at Fort Hood.
As with any PCS (Permanent Change of Station), we currently have movers packing all our items. Moving is always interesting when dealing with the movers, and this time is no exception. Before I begin talking about our current PCS, however, I need to tell you all about a few previous moves.
I would also love to hear your stories...the good, bad, and ugly.
To be clear, the above statement is the benefit I got from The Military Spouses Residency Relief Act. This may not be the case for every military spouse. Nonetheless, every miliotary spoise should know about what this Relief Act is and the benefits provided.
We put together this this list of tipr for your next PCS move. Don't forget to check out the video at the top!
Oh boy, hornets nest has been stirred...what a mess! Here's another good story for PCS season.
By Craig Gilman
Faculty Member at American Military University
Are you on the move? Summer is a time of transition and change for the military child. For many service members and their families, summer is the time when permanent changes of duty station (PCS) occur. While there is often excitement about moving to a new location, there is also a tremendous amount of stress. This can be especially true for the children of military families who often both suffer the sadness of leaving their old friends, school, jobs and community behind and deal with the anxiety of establishing themselves when arriving at their new home.
As a military spouse, there are many acronyms you will hear and use. PCS is one of those acronyms. The short answer is that PCS means move. Here's a more detailed answer.
Chris Pape, a 1995 graduate from the University of Cincinnati, is a multiple, national award-winning video producer with over 15 years of experience developing educational video productions for public school systems, large corporations, small businesses and state governments. He is also a civilian male military spouse and has been for over 10 years; in those 10 years Chris has been through three military moves, two deployments, countless TDY's, six job changes, one career change that quickly brought him back to his original career, and a few months of un-employment in between.
Check out the December 2012 Military Service Employment Journal from MSCCN.
Career Advice: PCS Job Search Tips - An employment search can be very daunting, especially in a new area. Here are four tips that really helped me find a position
after our last PCS.
Ask The Experts: Sometimes there are issues with your
job search. You feel like you are spinning your wheels and not really going anywhere – and you wonder why and how you can change it. Below are some questions we have had asked in the last few months that we felt would be helpful to everyone in their job search. We are here to
help should you need any further information or assistance!
'Tis the season to start your job search? Try filling your stockings with cash by landing that dream job going into the New Year. “What do you want for Christmas this year?” If you are answering this age old question with “Dear Santa, I want a new job!” Give yourself an early
gift, just make a visit to MSCCN and CASY for an early present of no-cost employment readiness, on the job training, direct connect, and one-on-one job placement services.
Our recent interview with Everett Lopez revealed some of the difficulties associated with being a man in the predominately female community of military spouses.
Macho Spouse and Chris Pape are mentioned in Alice Swan's article, Tuning in to the Military Spouse Network, in which Alice covers lessons she learned at the 2013 Military.com Spouse Summit (April 11-12, 2013). Here is what Alice wrote:
Build a service out of your unique experience and skill: A great example is Chris Pape, male military spouse and founder of Macho Spouse (https://malemilspouse.com/). Chris was kind enough to talk with me about how he started Macho Spouse. Living in Columbia, SC, while his spouse is working on an ROTC assignment, Chris said he began to feel pretty isolated. He thought he was the only guy spouse out there looking for information and help. About two years ago, Chris began researching male military spouses on the web but found only two articles about guys manning the home fronts. One of the stories was written by Amy Bushatz who you may remember from my Spouse Summit blog: https://www.dcmilitaryfamlife.com/profiles/blogs/you-are-not-alone.
Chris emailed Amy, who helped introduce him to Wayne Perry, founder of Manning the Home front (https://www.dcmilitaryfamlife.com/profiles/blogs/the-outlook-for-mil...) – it was the Military Spouse network in action. A video producer for 15 years, Chris had been working in Arkansas for the Department of Education, creating instructional videos before the PCS to Columbia. “I didn't see any information sites out there for guys to help share lessons learned or how to find jobs,” Chris told me, “so I decided to use the skills I'd developed making the educational videos to create learning videos for male military spouses.” Chris's fledgling video series has grown into a full service site for male military spouses to connect, get information on employment, money tips or gain insights through the Male Spouse 101 tutorial.
Facing another PCS soon with his Air Force spouse to San Antonio, Chris is excited about the opportunities the move presents. “I'm building a business I can take with me,” he explained. And while Macho Spouse is his future, Chris feels it can also lead to other opportunities in the present. Chris is confident that the work he's done creating Macho Spouse will lead to video and film production work in Texas.
Macho Spouse Founder Chris Pape talks with Kristine and Jackie, of Semper Feisty Radio with USMC Life, about civilian male military spouses, the Macho Spouse project and making life work as a male military spouse. You can listen to Kristine and Jackie interview Chris in the second segment of the Semper Feisty radio show, starting at 25:50.
Chris shares how the Macho Spouse project started as a result of PCS that left him unable to find a job in his career field. He also shares insight into the growing number of civilian male military spouses and the similarities and differences between civilian male military spouses and their female counterparts. Also, you can hear Chris explain why he chose the name "Macho Spouse" for the project.
Remember that song, "Take this job and shove it?" Well, that's not probably not what you want to express to your employers when you are about to leave, even if that's what you really feel. Times are tough and there are so many stories about how military spouses are finding it difficult to find work, even with all of the efforts out there for hiring military spouses.
Military.com has a good article on How to Leave Your Job Gracefully as a Military Spouse, aimed at helping you find the right words to leave a job before a PCS without burning any bridges.
Everyone is so focused on spouses getting jobs that they forget an equally important task -- leaving the job you have now.
Finding the right words -- and the tact -- to leave a job before a PCS without burning bridges can be difficult, but with these eight steps, you will be able to leave with good recommendations, not good riddance.