by Stay At Home Dad and Civilian Male Military Spouse Taurus James
Where has the time gone? It seems like yesterday I became a stay-at-home-dad (SAHD) and was asking for help and opinions on everything. I have to say “thank you” to everyone who helped me with this big transition. And speaking of transitions, this one is complete...I am now a SAHD and proud of it! I can now rock a puke-stained jacket, diaper bags, and car seats with pink bows on them with no problem. My days of being a Marine are in the past, I will always love the Corps, but now I have a greater love...my girls.
Like any good Marine, I've fused both worlds together to create a schedule that allows me to get stuff done around the house while my girls attend physical therapy. I actually had to get a white board calendar to help remind me about all our appointments. During the day, this gives me some time for myself...not a lot, but enough. I can say that my transition from Marine to SAHD has mostly been a success because of my ability to keep to this schedule and the support of my wife.
This lifestyle has not been as boring as I thought it would be. The girls have kept me on my toes when it comes to house work, food, and especially the laundry.
My schedule has helped a bunch, but there are a few things that have been problematic. One is that if I need/want to go somewhere, I must pack for at least four hours just in case I'm out when it's feeding time. The second problem has been getting everything packed into the truck within 30 minutes, not possible...I have tried and tried. So now we have to add 30 minutes to our schedule just to pack the car (including the girls) if we want to go out. Quick trips to get meals are a thing of the past. So the transition to SAHD may be complete, but I now face a whole new set of challenges.
Throughout this process, I hope to share my insight on having multiples and hopefully I can still learn a thing or two from the other dads out there. Like, how to pack the vehicle in less than 30 minutes.
Andrew “Fergie” Ferguson
Andrew "Fergie" Ferguson is a disabled Marine Veteran, male military spouse and Stay-At-Home-Dad (SAHD), sharing his progression from Marine to SAHD and giving back to new dads like himself, mostly with multiples.