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30 Ways Day 25! We'll be making some toasts this week, how about you?

30 Ways to say thank you to military families.

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30 Ways of Thanks

30Still.jpgNovember is Military Families Appreciation Month, and the 2014 Armed Forces Insurance Branch Spouses of the Year (Branch SOYs) want to help everyone, everywhere participate in thanking and honoring military families.

Americans love our military, but many people don't quite know how best to express their gratitude. As National Guard Spouse of the Year Dr. Ingrid Herrera-Yee notes, “saying "thanks" to our military families is something that many want to do, but are at a loss as to how to do it –or in the case of Guard and Reserve, how to find us!”

So the Branch SOYs created #30Ways of Thanks to help. Each day in November, the Branch SOYs will release a video with an action item that people around the country can participate in virtually or locally, individually or in groups. Participants can hash tag #30Ways so that their messages, photos, or videos are spread far and wide. Hash tags #GratefulNation and #MilFamsRock can also be added as a short-hand way to say “You are amazing, military families!” Best of all, the entire #30Ways video collection will be stored on the Branch SOYs' YouTube channel so that it can be repeated in Novembers to come, or whenever someone is looking for a way to say “thank you” to military families.

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Posted in Get Involved

Hiring Our Heroes helps military spouses

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TWENTYNINE PALMS, Calif. - Spouses of service members are often faced with unique challenges like raising children while their partner is deployed and frequent relocation each time the next permanent change of station come around. Focus is placed on the service member's career, leaving the spouse's employment aspirations to be placed on the back burner. Programs like Hiring Our Heroes not only work toward finding meaningful employment for veterans, but for spouses as well.

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Be Careful What You Post

NewsKid.jpgWe found this article written at the Fort Belvoir newspaper and decided to share as we feel this is a very important issue.

Last month's headlines proved that servicemembers are expected to behave on duty, off duty, in uniform and out, and even on social media.

First, there was the Facebook photo of an airman tongue-kissing a Prisoner of War-Missing in Action symbol, reported by the Army Times Feb. 14.

Then, there was the photo of Soldiers acting silly next to a casket, posted by a Wisconsin National Guardsman on an honors detail and the Intagram “selfie” of a Fort Carson, Colo., Soldier hiding in her car to avoid saluting the flag during retreat (reported by the Army Times Feb. 18 and Feb. 25, respectively).

Those servicemembers are facing investigations because their posts violated the Uniform Code of Military Justice.

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Male Military Spouses Create Their Own Support Networks

logo_machospouse-245x150.pngMale military spouses continue to attract more attention from the media.  In this article, Wayne Perry of MANning the Homefront and Chris Pape of Macho Spouse, share why they decided to start organizations specifically designed to help male military spouses and their families.  This was initially published in the Journal Inquirer (Connecticut) by Kristen Tsetsi, who also authored the novel Pretty Much True..., the at-home war story inspired by her husband's 2003 deployment to Iraq.

We may be a little biassed, but we think it's a great read.  Thank you Kristen and the Journal for taking an interest in male military spouses!

You can read the article here.

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Real Food for Real Men

Wings.jpgFellow male miltary spouse, Billy McFarland, started a new Facebook page about healthy eating and healthy living for men.  According to Billy, he started this while stuck at home during his wife's time in the field, deployments and training.  He plans to cover everything from what to eat and how to cook.

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Real-Food-for-Real-Men/468272673270622

A note from Billy:

So why do I care? Many people close to me know that I have lost a lot of weight in the last 3 years. I have more energy than I did at 18 and more importantly, I can keep up with my kids. 

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Beer Shopping Guide - The Beer Blogger

AaronB2.jpgYou're inside the store, so now what? With more stores providing more beers to choose from the task of beer shopping often leads to a paradox of choice for shoppers.

I believe going beer shopping should be a joyous occasion especially with the growing selection due to the surge of craft breweries in the U.S. Even if you are a naysayer that claims “I don't like beer” there is most likely an offering that will pleasantly surprise you.

However, the increased selection has also led to some confusion for consumers. For example, I often get asked how to select “good” beer by friends and even other shoppers.

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Posted in Male Spouse 101

Military Saves Week Aims to Motivate Male Military Spouses to Better Their Finances

Military SavesAs a male military spouse, I know how important it is to stretch every dollar as far as I can for my military family. I'm always looking for tips on how to save money and I really appreciate money saving tips for the Military Family.

Here are some questions to think about:

Do you have an emergency fund? Are you saving enough money for retirement? Do you have a budget? How close are you to financial freedom?

Military Saves Week (25 February- 2 March, 2013) is fast approaching, and we are helping to get the word out to the military community about this effort to motivate service members and their families to better their finances.

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Posted in Macho Money

Macho Spouse - The Name

chris-02.jpgAs our organization continues to grow and gains more attention from new people, I've learned that there is some confustion about our name.  In fact, I have been asked multiple times if our name, “Macho Spouse,” represented a sexist, homophobic point of view. My response to those questions is a simple, no.  Actually, the initial response is laughter and surprise with a slight dash of sorrow.  This perception is mostly my fault for not spending enough time explaining the meaning behind our name as we grow, leaving others to define “Macho Spouse” for us.  I chose our name after careful thought, consideration, and research.  I wanted a name that could illustrate our lifestyle while making people smile. I mean, if we can't have a laugh at some of the gender-reversed situations we find ourselves in, then we're taking life too seriously.

Macho Spouse represents a male spouse who has enough self-confidence in his masculinity to cook dinner, clean the house, wash the laundry, and take care of his children while his wife is away in combat.  We don't care what your race, religion, sex, or sexual preference is, if you're a military spouse who lives with honor and commitment to your family, you're a Macho Spouse and are always welcome here.

I appreciate your time and support, please help us by joining our conversation...or buying a shirt!  I hope this helps better explain who we are and what our name symbolizes. Now I must run along and kick something because I just learned my wife is deploying again.



Sincerely,

Chris Pape and the Macho Spouse Team

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Movers - The Good, Bad, and Ugly

Winegar_2.jpgIn the 13 years my wife and I have been married, my wife has also been in the Army. We have moved a total of eight times. As I post this topic, we are in the process of moving again. Our next stop will be Fort Knox, Kentucky. We are excited about this new location and have heard many good things about Fort Knox. But, we will certainly miss the friends we have made here at Fort Hood. As with any PCS (Permanent Change of Station), we currently have movers packing all our items. Moving is always interesting when dealing with the movers, and this time is no exception. Before I begin talking about our current PCS, however, I need to tell you all about a few previous moves. I would also love to hear your stories...the good, bad, and ugly.

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Advice for the New 'Mr. Mom'

Winegar_2.jpgFor guys, staying at home with the kids can be unchartered territory. I think every stay at home dad approaches his role differently, and he conducts a lot of discovery learning to figure out what works best for him and his family. For this reason, I comprised a list of key points to advise fathers who are stepping into the role of "Mr. Mom." Although every family is different, I have to imagine seasoned stay at home dads will find my list relevant and in the ballpark of what to expect. If someone had given me a list like this nine years ago, it would have been helpful. Feel free to share your experiences and add some points that I didn't include to this discussion:

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Did you know?

did-you-know-mms.gifWe have all heard of the benefit of a good healthy diet. Included is the surge of Greek Yoghurt and all of the fabulous flavors that they have come up with. But did you know that 1 particular flavor should be avoided from our servicemembers diet?

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Posted in Male Spouse 101

Military INSTALLATIONS - U.S. Department of Defense

The MilitaryHOMEFRONT Installations and Directories is provided by the Under Secretary of Defense (Personnel and Readiness).

The MiltiaryHOMEFRONT Installations and Directories shall provide Official Department of Defense Location Based Services (LBS) information on over 250 military installations and communities worldwide, including Installation Overviews and Directories of Programs and Services available for servicemembers and their families.

MilitaryHOMEFRONT Installations and Directories

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Macho Money Definitions - What Is A Bond?

vid_whatisbond.jpgWhat is a “bond?” No, not a secret agent from England, but an investment tool used to grow wealth.  According to the Wall Street Journal, bonds are a form of debt. Bonds are loans, or IOUs, but you serve as the bank.  You loan your money to a company, a city, the government – and they promise to pay you back in full, with regular interest payments.

Pretty understandable, but for greater detail and examples, click on the video and listen to Scott Halliwell from USAA explain.

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Giant Leap to Mars Challenge

What would you ask astronaut and American hero Buzz Aldrin if you had the chance? Maybe we should put together a Macho Spouse team of smart, engineer-minded military spouses for this competition...

http://www.conradchallenge.org/news/2014/10/13/tllishs4udl4cs91fnih7pd0n34f20
Win a One-On-One Q&A with Legendary Astronaut Buzz Aldrin
www.conradchallenge.org
How would you like the opportunity to talk one-on-one with the legendary Buzz Aldrin? Would you ask him what it's like to walk on the moon or talk with him about a Mars mission? Just imagine the questions you could ask him! The first 250 teams to register for the Giant Leap to Mars Challenge at www.…

30 Ways of Thanks Day #21

30Still.jpgA group of military spouses wrote Stories Around the Table, a collection of stories about what military family life is like. A portion of sale proceeds benefit Operation Homefront, and organization that helps military families in crisis.

November is Military Families Appreciation Month, and the 2014 Armed Forces Insurance Branch Spouses of the Year (Branch SOYs) want to help everyone, everywhere participate in thanking and honoring military families.

Americans love our military, but many people don't quite know how best to express their gratitude. As National Guard Spouse of the Year Dr. Ingrid Herrera-Yee notes, “saying "thanks" to our military families is something that many want to do, but are at a loss as to how to do it –or in the case of Guard and Reserve, how to find us!”

So the Branch SOYs created #30Ways of Thanks to help. Each day in November, the Branch SOYs will release a video with an action item that people around the country can participate in virtually or locally, individually or in groups. Participants can hash tag #30Ways so that their messages, photos, or videos are spread far and wide. Hash tags #GratefulNation and #MilFamsRock can also be added as a short-hand way to say “You are amazing, military families!” Best of all, the entire #30Ways video collection will be stored on the Branch SOYs' YouTube channel so that it can be repeated in Novembers to come, or whenever someone is looking for a way to say “thank you” to military families.

Posted in Get Involved

Quick Hitter - Active Listening Skills

vid_activeslisten.jpgMost of us can usually "hear" what our spouses are saying, but do we actually listen to the words and understand what is being communicated?  Active listening skills are important tools to have for successful, happy relationships.  In this new Macho Spouse "Quick Hitter," Elizabeth Cabibi, M.S.,LMFT (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist) defines active listening and then demonstrates how to practice and administer some good techniques.  Below is a Speaker Listener Technique used by many military marriage retreats.

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Veterans Info Site a Resource for US Military Veterans

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I did a "soft launch" of the Veterans Info Site website today. The official launch of the website will be in mid-March.

The VeteransInfoSIte.com is intended to provide a single Resource Center for our US Military Veterans and their family members. Specific and current Information related to Benefits, Housing, Employment and Medical Assistance is provided in an accurate and timely manner.

This project is VERY special to me because I am always seeking ways to help those who serve - and have served - their country. As a veteran abd civilian male military spouse, I see the importance of having timely information regarding Veterans benefits and services.

VeteransInfoSIte.com is one way that I can help Veterans get the info they need.

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Military Spouse Employment Survey

MOAASheild2.jpgHey guys, have you taken this survey yet?  Stuff like this is important because it may help you find work in the future, as well as, future generations of military spouses!

http://www.moaa.org/milspousesurvey/

The Military Officers Association of America (MOAA), a non-profit organization that advocates for military personnel and their families, is teaming up with Syracuse University's Institute for Veterans and Military Families (IVMF) to launch the Military Spouse Employment Survey.

Military spouses face many challenges to both employment and career advancement as a result of the military lifestyle. This imperative study will look at the employment pattern of all military spouses, especially related to their long-term career trajectories. We encourage all active duty, National Guard, reserve, veteran, and surviving spouses who are 18 years and older to participate by sharing their stories, experiences and lessons learned.

According to the 2010 Department of Defense Manpower Data Center (DMDC), there are approximately 725,877 spouses of Active Duty service members and approximately 413,295 spouses of Reserve and Guard members. In addition, it is estimated that there are more than 15 million veterans' spouses in the United States and over 5.8 million surviving spouses. By adding their voice, we can build a stronger foundation for military spouses' professional needs, identify any barriers to career development and share their stories with government officials, state, and federal policy makers in order to overcome obstacles and improve the quality of life for our service members and their families.

The Military Spouse Employment Survey will open on September 16, 2013 and remain open for 30 days. This survey icompletely anonymous, for research purposes and therefore completely voluntary. The survey will take approximately 30 minutes to complete.   

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New Macho Spouse Logo. Thoughts?

Hey gang, fellow male military spouse Michael Piatt designed us a new logo. We can envision this on t-shirts, in videos, and easily readable on social media channels.  We happen to love it, but what do you think?  Is it a winner?

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Male Military Spouse Topics

Husband No Kids

I am an Army husband and I have been having a great deal of issues dealing with my wife's deployment. She left back in December right before Christmas and she will be back sometime in the fall. This time apart has been very difficult as the communication we are having is very limited for many reasons. My wife has found a new life over there and has been sucked in by the Army life and other events that are available for her, to the point that I feel like I am no longer a priority or part of her life. Sometimes I feel that she feels obligated to call me because I ask her to. I am alone in this town, without any kids or family, and the few friends we have either PCS or left the Army.
I have been looking for support groups or events organized by the Armed Forces but it is a bit frustrating when I attend the events for families/spouses as they are all targeted towards wives/children and I have not been very welcomed in that type of environment or at least that is how I felt.
In regards to employment, I have been looking for employment since we were stationed here in CO and it has been impossible. I have been rejected by so many companies for one reason or another that it is affecting me and my marriage to the point of "divorce talk"
One of the patterns I have noticed is that, although people claim to "love the military" and "thank our service members" they are not very inclined to hire a military spouse. The perception about military spouses is, first they are a woman, with children and no professional background I think. The companies that look at my resume are impressed as I hold an MBA, I have over 17 years of experience in Supply Chain Management, Healthcare, leadership and technology, but once they find out I am a military husband they lose interest and hang up the phone. Companies do not want to take the "risk" of hiring a talented worker while their spouse is in the Armed Forces. I understand the investment and logistical effort needed to process the hiring of a new employee, but I also think that military spouses should have some type of consideration by employers. A military spouse will be with the company for as long as they are stationed in one place as, I believe, a military spouse understands how difficult it is to get a job in our circumstances. I have been rejected by many companies several times because I am "overqualified" for every job in COS. Not even Target will take me for a floor job.
I did not qualify for the Priority Placement Program for a technicality which, to me, is absurd. The orders my wife received were issued before our wedding, so I was not able to get any assistance from anyone at the US Army. I know this will not happen when the new PCS orders are released but there might not be a "next PCS" for me as this situation has had a terrible impact in our marriage.
I am not sure what is going to happen once my wife gets back from deployment in the fall, as we are going through a really bad period and things are not looking promising during future deployments and potential TDYs.
I forgot to mentioned, I am a Cancer survivor and that has had a big impact in my life both emotionally and mentally, and that has made it even more difficult by being alone here and not having great communication with my wife.

I just wanted to vent here… thank you for listening/reading

Daniel

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Almost military Spouse

What's up fellas. Been dating my girlfriend for 7 months and she just graduated BMT. We met during her process of joining the air force so it was no suprise for me. We both know we want to be together and plan on a long life together. Crazy I know after only 7 months. But when you know you just know. Anyways ive been in forums on other sites and ive repeatedly been told to look for another gf. As the DoD says we only have a ten percent chance of staying together. How do I go about assuring a lasting relationship with the girl of my dreams who also happens to be in the air force?

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Real New

Well, I'm new to the military game but I'm not at the same time. I come from a family with a pretty solid military background (both grandfathers and scattered uncles served) including my brother and sister both serving in the Air Force. I didn't join due to an athletic scholarship I received for football that I pissed down my leg. Recently married my wife after dating for a year. She's in the Army Reserve and is being deployed. Not too worried about my career as I recently started my own business in Fargo, which worked out since she got moved to that unit when they selected her from their sister unit in Sioux Falls. Not going to lie, the military life frustrates me on a lot of levels. I'm the type of person who when a plan is set that's the plan damn it, and I'm just starting to adjust myself to the reality (well that's what it feels like) that I should assume what I'm told will be longer or different than what I'm initially told. Which drives me crazy coming from the civilian world, where when you are told something that's what's going to happen generally speaking. I get wildly frustrated because it feels like I keep getting what I call "soft sold", or basically being told something to make it seem better/easier than it is. She even does it all the time, even when we argue about it with time gone, training time at other bases, ect. I've learned to not say anything about it anymore because I know my frustration certainly doesn't help her, but I know bottling it up turns me into a pressure cooker, especially when I'm starting a business at the same time this is happening doubling up the stress. I handle being told right away what's going to happen much better than told its this amount (I.E. months) rather than its this, now this, and now this with this. Drives me nuts. The other thing that is hard to swallow honestly is that she's still at pre mob (mobe? Mobilization) and already rumors are swirling about the women and men enough that the commander has said something to them. I trust her, but at the same time it's a difficult thing to swallow. I can definitely say I'm very excited to find this website after a month or so of feeling like I would just keep myself isolated the whole time. Just kinda feel that all the other spousal stuff is going to be almost strictly women and to be honest I would feel very uncomfortable in that setting and the last thing I feel I would do is to talk about my frustrations to a bunch of women (as cheovanistic as that sounds). It's even more difficult with just moving to an area where I don't know anybody and the only time off I have is either spent with my daughter (previous relationship) or doesn't start till 11pm limiting me to meeting new friends at a bar, which I'm not terribly keen on. Sorry for vomiting my concerns all at once. Thank you for putting this board together! It is very exciting to find a place for male spouses!

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Joint base Pearl Harbor Hickam AFB

Hello, we have just been stationed here on Hawaii and let me tell you, it is beautiful here, however with a 6 year old and 2 year old the beauty can really be lost through all of the frustration and exhaustion.

 

First let me say that my name is Jasper Williams. Being a Military spouse is not new to me because I have been with my wife since before she enlisted almost 11 years ago, so I am used to it, however I have always been a working man and we have usually gotten daycare for the children so I was never home as much as I am now.

Since we got the orders I have had to leave my Job with the state of Texas, where I worked as a Child Protective Services investigator. I really enjoyed my job, not because the work was enjoyable, but because I was making a difference in children's lives.

I believe that my experience working with children has given me the patience needed to deal with my two boys but, I miss having male friends to interact with and watch the games sometimes. If there is anyone in my area please let me know...I am a fun big black guy who enjoys a good time.

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Hickam AFB

We just found out that we are PCSing to Hickam next summer. I'm a SAHD as well. I'm looking forward to moving to Hawaii as I play a lot of Golf.

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Any Musicians Out There?

What instrument(s)? Are you currently playing anywhere? Got any music we can check out?

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2 year veteran Male Spouse here

Greetings!

Name is Craig.  My wife is a 1st Lt in the Marines.  She is an Adj out in Okinawa.  Glad to find this place and look forward to talking/learning/hanging out.  

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DC area & Higher Education Act

Anyone heading to DC for a PCS should know this.  I just wanted to share and help anyone out there. 

 

My wife got orders to the National Capital Region.  I immediately started looking into colleges once we got the orders. I applied and got into University of Maryland.  We ended up moving to Bethesda in Maryland.  Going into the area blind I found that Bethesda looked to be a good safe neighborhood.  (Which it is if anyone is looking for neighborhoods).  But after a year in Bethesda, our small townhouse with zero outdoor space wasn't working out for my toddler and lab.  So we decided to move south to Virginia.  Cost of living is lower and we were able to rent a house with a yard.

Little did we know moving across the state line I lost my in-state tuition rate.  I thought with my wife being active duty the spouse will receive in-state tuition no matter where we lived.  If you read the fine print you will only receive in-state tuition rates if you reside in that state.  The active duty member doesn't have to be stationed in that state.  That was something I overlooked.

Luckily I am getting around this by a Maryland law.  Maryland will give any honorably discharged veteran in-state tuition rates no matter what your state residency is so long as you are residing in the state.  So I am renting a room and keeping that address as my permanent address. 

I don't know if Virginia and DC have similar laws for veterans.  This is an unusual problem that most military families wont run into unless you are stationed on the boarder of different states.

Hope this helps someone out there   

 

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i need some advice/ help please

  Hello, My Fiance left to Lackland for Basic training today. And i have never had to go any long stretch of time without having communication available to us both. So i have no idea how to really keep in touch with her, and i was hoping someone with more experience could help? i have already wrote her a letter and i plan to write more everyday to her,( 1 letter a day) but i would love to hear any more methods that are tried and true. also, if anyone could better explain when me and my Fiance can finally get married, that will be greattly appreciated. thank you

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how is hawaii

how do people like hawaii

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