Hey guys, here's a question from fellow male spouse Dave Etter. Anyone have some input?
James Schmidt A month into the deployment we were having playdates every weekend as we all had toddlers. I sent a video to my wife with our son playing with everyones kids. Her commander saw the video and became upset that his wife was hanging out with a man while he was gone. So he had the FRG leaders request that I not come to anymore functions and only communicated via email.Ray Swindale Current FRG, nothing. In fact several of them, including the FRG leader told me before this deployment I wasn't welcome as part of the FRG. In the half dozen other units my wife has belonged to over the years I have had two that I helped rebuild only to be asked to leave, three that I have gone to meetings/events and actually had someone else talk to me, and the final two didn't even know I existed.Alice Swan Oh guys, it is so sad reading your responses. But foremost, no one can tell you not to be involved or that you are not a welcome member of the group. If that happens, the commander needs to be informed since the FRG belongs to the commander, not the vo...See MoreShelley Wegele Kunkel Wayne Perry thank you for the appreciation! I am truly thankful for you and all of the A-CO 116inf spouses. I valued being an FRG leader. I did things the way I thought I wanted to be treated and communicated with. Yes, it is the "Captains" FRG...See MoreMelissa Willis-Reum No one can tell you to not be involved and you don't need to wait for an invitation to attend an FRG meeting. We didn't have any husband's in my husband's last squadron... but we did have a few Dad's of sailors attend our FRG meetings and all events. ...See MoreO'Driscoll Sean Nothing really. You say we can join anytime and we dont need a special "invitation" to join but when the flyers of upcoming events are pink with high heels and the word "military wives" is on it, how do you think we feel? That doesn't sound very fun nor inviting to me.Ed Adams Try to get other guys involved, but currently in our spouses groups there are 2 including myself. After 24 years active duty, the only way I am a part of the community anymore (without actually going back to work) is to get involved with the other spo...See MoreMark Smurda I am a KS Mentor. I try to get more guys into the Spouses Club or PTA (school is on base) rather than the KS program. I DO try and push Heart Link though, and not just for the guys. And I echo Ed's comment - it's not "wife", it's "spouse"!! I also help admin the base Key Spouse FB page and Spouses' Club FB Group.