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Taurus James

Taurus James is an Air Force civilian male military spouse and stay-at-home-dad, minister, musician and composer of Moody instruMental Music. He is also professional IT Consultant and Web Developer with over ten years experience working within various industries. Find out more about Taurus through his blog:

"Faithwalk Music: Faith, Music and Life of a Moody Instrumental Musician"

 

Taurus James

 

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Employment Information and Resources for Civilian Male Military Spouses

Veteran, military transition, and military spouse employment and training resources for service members transitioning from the military back to living a civilian life, veterans seeking gainful employment, and military spouses seeking employment.


| Employment
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How To Manage Stress

Stress affects almost everyone. Before you became a new civilian male military spouse, you probably experienced stress. Now, you will probably experience stress in different ways and more frequently.

Sometimes, it can be a good thing because it can energize us to meet new challenges or changes. But if it's not managed, stress can affect your physical and emotional health, your relationships, and your life.

Whether you're a civilian male military spouse or not, below you will find a few tips on how to manage stress.


| Health
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How To Enroll A Newborn Child In DEERS

If you haven't encountered DEERS yet as a civilian male military spouse, check out this post. If you are a male military spouse and new dad a with a brand new baby, congrats! Here is some info on How To Enroll A Newborn Child In DEERS.


| Male Spouse 101
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A New Civilian Male Military Spouse Encounter with DEERS

As a civilian male military spouse, have you encountered DEERS yet?


| Male Spouse 101
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5 Portable Careers for Civilian Male Military Spouses

Making a prtable career requires hard, smart work, but it is possible. There are plenty of guys who have made their careers portable. You can do it, too. Here are 5+ Portable Careers for Civilian Male Military Spouses.


| Employment
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Do You Know Your Military Base Firearm Laws?

Military Base Firearm Laws can be confusing, especially when you end up living at two different military bases within one year, like I did. I own several guns and the first time I encountered military base firearm laws was during a PCS move when the movers asked me if my guns were registered on the base. My response..."Huh?"


| Did You Know
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10 Tips to Make a Portable Career as a Civilian Male Military Spouse

As a new civilian male military spouse, you will come to a point when you will have to make a decision about your career. One tip on ho How to make a portable caree is: Think "Portable" at all times.


| Employment
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Journey Tip: Communicate

Communicate like your life together depends on it.


| Male Spouse 101
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Journey Tip: Be Flexible

Be flexible. This journey is like Yoga: flexibility and a willingness to improvise are required to make it through to the end.


| Male Spouse 101
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Macho Minute - Male Military Spouse Help Your Spouse Shine

Help your spouse Shine as you Navigate the Male Military Spouse Role.


| Macho Minute
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Macho Minute - Navigate the Male Military Spouse Role

A few people you need in order to successfully Navigate the Male Military Spouse Role.


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What is No Shave Movember?

I learned about Movember from John Aldrich, AVP, Military Relations at American Military University via his post Get In The Game

Movember, the grass roots movement to raise awareness about men's health issues is nearly complete, and for those of you who are growing a mustache to show support for the cause, I salute you. For those who didn't participate or weren't aware of Movember, there is always next November.


| Health
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When Homecoming is Not So Happy
Homecoming is great! Your spouse is finally coming home after a military deployment. You are finally going to be together again after spending so much time apart. But it is possible that the homecoming experience might not be so happy.
 
Military deployments present different situations which will affect families differently. The separation of the active duty military member from family can be a tough experience. The homecoming experience can be a tough one, too. But here are a few Tips Everyone Can Use To Welcome A Military Member Home.

| Deployment
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SAHD Life: Being a Strong-And-Healthy-Dad

I get these "google alerts" every day, which are basically just articles and posts from around the web related to certain keywords I want to monitor. "SAHD" and "Stay-At-Home-Dad" are keywords I monitor and I have been getting a great deal of posts.


| Dads
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Now That I'm a SAHD (Stay-At-Home-Dad)... The Power of Being Present

Now that I'm a SAHD (Stay-At-Home-Dad), I'm taking the time to reflect on my journey by doing a little writing. As a male military spouse of a female active duty US Air Force officer, my approach to this "SAHD Life" is with the same basic question I have for making it through just about all of my experiences - "How do I do this?" I hope my attempts to share my answers to this question help at least one person out there.


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Live Through The Loss - A Personal Message About Losing My Eyesight

Originally, I made this video for the community at Computer Music Academy (CMA), but it is for anyone who has ears to hear what I'm saying. 


| Health
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SAHD Life: My First Daddy-Daughter Dance

The YMCA Adventure Guides Father-Daughter Sweetheart Ball was not on my radar until a good friend of mine told me how he takes his daughters each year. I thought, "Cool! You and your girls are really excited about this thing, huh?" When my wife started getting emails about the event, there was no controlling her excitement. She was even talking about renting a car for the night!


| Dads
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SAHD Life: Doing My Daughter's Hair for School

As a male military spouse and Stay-At-Home-Dad (SAHD), learning to properly care for my daughter's hair has been a challenging and rewarding experience.


| Dads
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Today as a Male Military Spouse - Listen and Laugh

My wife has a bit of a challenge now as she adapts to her new position. I asked her how her day went and she told me. Today as a Male Military Spouse (civilian husband married to a military wife), I learned to Listen and Laugh.

Things I learn as a Civilian Male Military Spouse by Taurus James


| Marriage
How the Military Spouses Residency Relief Act helps military spouses

I don't get excited about much, but I am very excited about this. I no longer have to do all the paperwork and go through the hassle of changing my residency every time we PCS (move). Plus, now I get to keep my residency with a tax-free state. BONUS!

Military spouses need to check out the following article. It gives more details about the Military Spouses Residency Relief Act (MSRRA). Also, keep in mind that this makes voting easier for military spouses!


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Does anyone have a Military Marriage Map that I can borrow?

Hey! Does anyone have a marriage map that I can borrow? Better yet, does anyone have a military marriage map that I can borrow? (I could sure use a military marriage compass, too, if you have one. But I don't want to press my luck by asking for too much at once. So, I'll wait on the compass.)

I tried "googling" (yeah, that's a word) "marriage map" but Google kept giving me links to "wedding map" instead. Thanks Google, but I don't want to know how to get to Don and Susan's wedding! I want a map that I can use to help my wife and I get to that Happy Marriage Wonderland place that I have been hearing about since we got married!

 


| Marriage
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Today as a Male Military Spouse - Her Support

Learning the support role as a civilian male military spouse (civilian husband married to a military wife) was very, VERY difficult for me. When I look back, I point to my pride and immaturity as major factors in my slow learning and acceptance of the role.


| Marriage
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How would you feel if your child wanted to enlist in the military?

One of my Google alerts had the following article from Lifetime Moms (Lifetime - you know, the channel with all the dramas?...Oh, you don't know?).


| Dads
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So You Want To Marry An Active Duty Military Service Member?

This series will answer a few questions about what your getting into as well as what it may be like to be married to a female active duty service member.


| Marriage
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Benefits Available to Civilian Male Military Spouses

As a civilian male military spouse,do you know the benefits available to you? 


| Male Spouse 101
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Resources Available to Civilian Male Military Spouses

As a civilian male military spouse,do you know the resources available to you?


| Male Spouse 101
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SAHD Life: Are You a Sad-At-Holidays-Dad with Depression, Anxiety, Loneliness?

When I was a boy, I loved the holidays. I had great anticipation and excitement during Christmas. I loved being with family and friends during Thanksgiving. Food, football and fellowship are what I looked forward to the most.


| Dads