When Homecoming is Not So Happy

When Homecoming is Not So Happy

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Image: Taurus James – Civilian Male Military Spouse Shares Tips Everyone Can Use To Welcome A Military Member Home – Macho Spouse

 

Homecoming is great! Your spouse is finally coming home after a military deployment. You are finally going to be together again after spending so much time apart. But it is possible that the homecoming experience might not be so happy.
 
Military deployments present different situations which will affect families differently. The separation of the active duty military member from family can be a tough experience. The homecoming experience can be a tough one, too. But here are a few Tips Everyone Can Use To Welcome A Military Member Home.

Get Your Mind Right

Like Forest Gump Said, "It Happens." Run with it!

After 20 years as a civilian male military spouse, i am blessed with a K.I.M. (Keep It Movin') attitude and I don't waste time and energy with things I cannot control.

Many things can, and probably will, go wrong, or not as planned, during the homecoming experience. You can limit the negative impact by knowing your liimits, keeping a positive attitude and running with whatever comes. Much, if not most of the homecoming experience will be out of your control. That's okay. Keep It Movin'!

Be Present

Okay, so you missed the homecoming experience at the airport, or  the base. It's not the end of the world! Yeah, you missed it. Apologize and do whatever you need to to make amends. Bounce back!

Being in the moment is something I struggled with for years, but being away from my wife has helped me to appreciate just BEING with her. I don't have to want anything from her, no expectations or needs on my part. I just want to be with her. 

Antagonistic Hater-ade Troll: "Really, dude? Well, why did you miss the homecoming at the airport?" 

Me: ...

Smile

A smile is a wonderful thing. You might be like, "Duh, Captain Obvious." That;s right, Captain Obvious is in the building pointing out that a smile really can turn things around for your returning loved one and you, too.  

So, go ahead, flash that winning smile and let your loved one see that you are glad they are back home. And yeah, you might want to SAY that sas well as show it.

When Homecoming is Not So Happy

As a Military Spouse, you are a resilient person, whether you believe it or not. Remember this about yourself and even if the homecoming isn't so happy, bounce back. Your loved one is home.

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Hey! There are some folks who do this writing thing way better than I do and provide some great stories and tips to help you have a great homecoming experience.

5 Things No One Ever Told Me About Homecoming

 

 

Taurus M. James Male Military SpouseTaurus James is the 2016 Armed Forces Insurance Military Spouse of the Year from Wright Patterson Air Force Base.  Taurus is a 20-year civilian male military spouse and stay-at-home-dad. He is also a minister and composer of Moody instruMental Music. Taurus is a professional IT Consultant and Web Developer, and he built and maintains the Machospouse.com website for free. Find out more about Taurus through his blog:

"Faithwalk Music: Faith, Music and Life of a Moody instruMental Musician"

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And the Winner Is...

ScholarshipWinner.jpg(The video is a little blurry due to some military spouse appreciation happening last night, but you'll be able to clearly hear who was selected as this year's winner.)

Congratulations to everyone who participated in the first ever Macho Spouse Scholarship Give-a-Way presented by the Sonoran Desert Institute! This year, every MachoSpouse.com member had a chance to win a free Gunsmithing Scholarship from SDI's School of Firearms Technology. Only one could win, and that's what sucks because several guys have shown a TON of passion and interest in this line of education. If you didn't win (tiny violins playing), don't worry because you may still be eligible for free tuition through the MyCaa grants. We recommend contacting SDI for more information and help with that process. If MyCaa isn't your thing, or your not eligible, SDI offers quite a few eBooks on gunsmithing that you can download for FREE from their website. Here are two of the more popular ones:

http://www.schooloffirearmstechnology.net/workbench

http://www.schooloffirearmstechnology.net/shotgun-shells

Again, these are FREE! Plus, they have a great YouTube channel filled with tutorials and such, AND we will continue to promote different gunsmithing “How To” videos on our site. SDI is trying hard to take care of ALL of us! (applause from the gallery)

Congratulations again to this year's winner and we hope everyone has a great Male Military Spouse Appreciation Day!

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MOAA Legislation

vid_moaalegthumb.jpgThe Military Officers Association of America is the nation's largest and most influential association of military officers.  It is an independent, nonprofit, politically nonpartisan organization.  They are the leading voice on compensation and benefit matters for all members of the military community, and are a powerful force speaking for a strong national defense and representing the interests of military officers at every stage of their careers.  

Learn why male military spouses and their families should pay attention and get involved with what MOAA is doing.  

Interviews with Karen Golden (Deputy Director, MOAA Government Relations) and Monique Rizer (Deputy Director, MOAA Spouse Programs).  Video Credit to MOAA Video Department for providing some b-roll footage.