The State of Macho Spouse & Where I've Been

The State of Macho Spouse & Where I've Been

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MSOYMECrop.jpgWell it's been a while since I've contributed any meaningful content to Macho Spouse and I owe everyone an explanation. No, I haven't decided to hang it up and retire…not yet anyway, quite the opposite really. As some of you already know, last February I was named the Armed Forces Insurance Air Force Spouse of Year, as well as, the AETC (Air Education Training Command) level Joan Orr Air Force Spouse of Year. Being recognized by so many people for the work we've done building a resource for male military spouses was incredibly humbling and an absolute honor. What a great way to start the year! However, I wasn't prepared for the amount of effort and time each of those distinctions would demand. The time I normally spent creating videos and/or blog posts for Macho Spouse was dedicated to new speaking engagements, interviews, articles for other websites and publications, and even a chance to author a small portion of, Stories Around the Table, Laughter, Wisdom, and Strength in Military Life. I had multiple opportunities to speak at many Air Force functions and present Macho Spouse (along with the plight of male military spouses) to the highest levels of civilian and military leadership. Hell, the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs coined me! (To my high school counselor who 26 years ago called me a “flake,” you were suck it.) Our message is slowly starting to gain traction and people of influence are listening, we just need to continue pushing forward. Anyway, toss in the fact that my wife deployed in March and I was working a full time job, well, there wasn't much time for anything else.

So 2014 was a blur and I'm ready to talk about where we're going in 2015. Taurus and I are currently working on a slight website re-design and we plan to create more blog posts that will accompany each video, giving a more well rounded delivery of content. We will continue to ask (beg) you guys to contribute where and when you can. was designed to give you guys an area to share your stories, victories, failures, concerns, and knowledge…don't be afraid to use it! (email/message me for direction on how to contribute) We are also launching other male-specific resources this year, including “MachoPros,” a male military spouse friendly job board that will be powered by MSCCN and CASY. We hope to filter out some of the jobs you guys may be more interested in so you don't have to weed through hundreds of irrelevant listings.

 I am very excited to have the Sonoran Desert Institute (SDI) andSDI_Logo_2.png their School of Firearms Technology on board as our first official sponsor. On May 7th we will be awarding the first ever “Macho Spouse Scholarship in Gunsmithing” courtesy of SDI's School of Firearms Technology. This scholarship award will coincide with the first ever “Male Military Spouse Appreciation Day,” also on May 7th. Guys, there are a lot of firsts here and even if you're not interested in a Gunsmithing scholarship you can't deny this is pretty freaking cool! More information on how you can be part of these festivities to come. SDI is one of many outstanding military family resource organizations we've partnered with over the last few years and we plan to continue growing all of these relationships in 2015. Look for reviews and new blog posts on all of our “partner organizations” throughout the year.

One final thought, I will talk more on this later, but just wanted to get something off my chest. I find it disheartening when I read articles written by other male spouse, or written by someone else about male spouses, and either the author, and/or interview subject, claim there are no resources for male military spouses. That's bullshit lazy writing and reporting. Admittedly, we have a lot of work to do with marketing and building our offerings, but all someone has to do is Google “male military spouse” or “military husband” or any combination of “military spouse man/dude/guy/etc.” and you will find Macho Spouse dominating the first search page. That is a testament to the hard work Taurus, myself, and many others who have contributed over the last few years. We've busted our butts building a foundation for what can be a great resource, but there is more work to do. We need help, we need more guys, and gals, to stand up and join our party. This project has “legs” and we're looking for people who want to come along for the ride. Please help us spread the word, help contribute ideas and content, and offer your opinions on what you think it will take to make us a world-class resource. At the very least, please don't ignore we exist and then complain that you're all alone and nobody cares, because nothing could be further from the truth. We're here for you guys and all of us should be looking forward to a bright, fulfilling future!

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See also...

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MOAA's Making it in the MilLife Blog Features Macho Spouse

We thank the Military Officers Association of America (MOAA) for featuring Macho Spouse in their "Making it in the MilLife" blog.

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5 Simple Steps To Make A Crosshair Square

CrossHair.jpgMany rifle owners find crosshair squares helpful for fine-tuning a scope. While some people can successfully eyeball their targets to set the scope's position correctly, it is not something every person finds easy.

List Of Items Needed
• Heat-resistant gloves
• Vice
• Electric saw
• Dial calipers
• 90-degree shelving bracket
• Small square of Lenan plexiglass
• Straight-edged ruler
• Blow torch
• Utensil for marking

Steps For Making A Crosshair Square
When making a crosshair square, it is important to follow the steps exactly. Precise measurements are key to a useful and accurate crosshair square.

Step 1: Prepare The Plexiglass

Start by setting the dial calipers at 875 thousandths. Put the leading edge on the plexiglass, and drag the calipers straight to create a line across the sheet. The scribed line will be a guide for cutting, which the next step details.

Step 2: Cut And Sand The Plexiglass

Use an electric saw with a fine enough blade to make a precise cut. Using the scribed line as a guide, make a careful cut down the plexiglass. Be sure to leave a little extra material on the side for sanding. If the material is sanded down too much, the crosshair square will be too small to work effectively. Use a sanding tool to sand the sides of the plexiglass until it is smooth.

Step 3: Scribe The Center Line And Align The Plexiglass

Next, set the dial calipers to 437 1/2 thousandths. Placing the leading edge on the plexiglass, scribe a line down the middle. Use the straight-edged ruler to mark the height of the square, which should be exactly halfway up. This is the bending point for the plexiglass. Line up the plexiglass along the back of the shelving bracket in the vice. Make sure they are aligned perfectly before tightening it.

Step 4: Bend The Plexiglass

Before starting this step, put the heat-resistant gloves on. Start the blow torch. Run it back and forth quickly along the plexiglass. Starting with a slight pressure, bend the plexiglass forward as it becomes hotter. Keep running the blow torch back and forth across the spot where the plexiglass should bend, and carefully bend the material forward to match the shelving bracket's shape. Hold it forward to set in shape and cool before using it.

Step 5: Test The Crosshair Square

When the plexiglass is cool, remove the crosshair square. Put it in the bolt action to test it. This product should fit in most centerfire rifles. Line it up with the scope, and adjust the scope as necessary to match the crosshair square's scribed line. Learn more from the above video.

These few simple steps yield a useful tool. For more gunsmithing tips, visit SDI's YouTube channel. Gunsmithing is a great hobby for any male military spouse. Be sure to check out for additional gunsmithing tools, tips and information for male military spouses.



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