Marine to SAHD: Introduction

Marine to SAHD: Introduction

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Introduction to Marine to SAHD Blog, laying out where I have been what experiences I have.

Andrew Ferguson

Hello All,

My name is Andrew “Fergie” Ferguson; I enlisted in the United States Marine Corps in 2007 and did four years of active duty in Hawaii.  In those four years I deployed twice, once to Iraq and Afghanistan.  I was injured during those four years on multiple occasions and still am injured and receiving help from the Veterans Affairs. 


Andrew and Ashland Ferguson

Before my second deployment I met my wife, Ashland Ferguson, who supported me during and after I got back from Afghanistan.  We now have been married for three years and going strong.  In 2011 it was time for me to make a decision stay in or get out of the military.  Ashland and I made a decision for me to get out and go to school full time, utilizing my Post 9/11 GI Bill.  Within the time I got out in 2011, still in Hawaii, I got a job working at a local restaurant while going to school full time.  I eventually quit the job due to us PCSing to Fort Lewis, Washington where we currently are stationed.  Not too long after we got to Fort Lewis I hit the ground trying to find a job, and did so.  I was working as a security guard and still going to school online with the same school back in Hawaii. 

Andrew Ferguson

Soon after I got the job we found out we were pregnant, yes it was a shock but we were ready to become parents and ecstatic.  We went in for a normal appointment and got a surprise like no other, the doctor said, “Well baby one and baby two are fine.”  My wife and I looked at each other with confusion and had to ask the doctor multiple times, “Are you sure?”  We eventually overcame our shock and started planning for two!  Well in December our two little girls were born and since my wife is the active duty member she had the first two months with the girls.  I was still working as a security guard until February 2013 when I quit becoming a Stay-At-Home-Dad.  It was a tough decision because all my life I have worked, worked, worked and I had a hard time thinking that I was going to be bored out of my mind, and stuck with house work. 

Andrew Ferguson

Well that is why I am doing this blog because I could not have been more wrong in my life!  I want to share my progression and tips I can give back to new dads like myself, mostly with multiples.  This blog is for Stay-At-Home-Dads, Active duty parents becoming Stay-At-Home-Parents, and Everyone in between.

Key facts about me, (for those who do not like to read)

  • Marine Veteran-Four Years with Two Deployments (Iraq and Afghanistan Personal)
  • Disabled Veteran-receives education benefits and disability pay from the Veterans Affair(VA)
  • VFW Member of Post 11402 in Lacey, Washington
  • One PCS move, No Deployments as a Spouse of an Active Duty Member
  • MACHOspouse Member
  • MANning the homefront Facebook member
  • Stay-At-Home-Dad (as of February and to multiples)

Marine to SAHD Andrew “Fergie” Ferguson

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While stationed at Los Angeles AFB, I drove by this motel on the way to work one morning and I noticed that the US flag was flying upside down. People were entering and leaving the building as if nothing was wrong. So, I pulled in and asked one of the workers if everything was okay in the building and I notified him that they were dislaying the flag upside down. He said everything was cool and he fixed the flag immediately, but he didn't understand why I was asking if everything was okay. So I explained to him that a US flag flying or displayed upside down is a distress signal (extreme danger to life or property)

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Top 10 Reasons Military Spouses Benefit From Facebook Groups

Facebook groups are wonderful things that most people probably don't use to their full advantage. With a group, you can control who is in the group and even if the group can be found via search. This makes it perfect for chatting or sharing things that you don't want everyone to see.

1. To Keep In Touch With Friends and Family

Use groups to keep a conversation with your close friends or family. You can freely share things you many not feel comfortably sharing on just your Facebook page and it's great for planning events or large get together. It's also easier to keep up with everything than having to visit everyone's pages

2. Easier Communication With Your Spouse During Deployments

We all know that communication can be limited during deployment. There are pictures and stories you want to share with your spouse, but don't want everyone else to see, so share them in a group. You can limit it to just the two of you as members, then when he/she gets a chance to check in, they can see everything at once.

3. Network At A New Duty Station

The hardest thing to do at a new duty station is make friends and network. Find a Facebook group for your base. Ask questions about the area, learn about classes for fitness or other things that interest you, and even find babysitters.

4. Keep Up With Your Spouse's Unit

A lot of units and FRG's have Facebook groups or pages. This can easily allow you to see what is going on with the unit and any upcoming events that may be of interest to you. These groups are especially helpful if the unit is gone for training or deployed.

5. Garage Sale Pages

Right? Facebook garage sale pages are great! You can easily buy and sell items and even find people for house cleaning or babysitters. Since it's a group, the admins should only allow people in your area to be included.

6. Entertainment Purposes

Groups can be started for anything, including news, current events, or your favorite TV show. If your spouse hates watching OITNB, talk about the episodes in a group with other fans.

7. Foster And Receive Support From Other Military Spouses

Have questions about benefits, PCSing, or military life in general, there's a group for that. If there isn't you can start one! Everything from <a_dropped style="color: #bb133e;" href="http://martinsburgcollege.edu/enroll-now/financial-assistance/" target="_blank">MyCAA for spouses to wounded warrior wives.

8. Helping To Reach New Goals

Looking to grow your business or go back to school? Find a supportive group of like-minded people to answer any questions and help keep you motivated.</p



 

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